Beautiful Girls Are Not Looking For Handsome Guys!
It’s a belief that beautiful girls are always looking for handsome guys. But new findings go against this belief. Now-a-days Beautiful Girls Are Not Looking for handsome guys!
I have asked one of my young, bubbliest and charming colleagues: - “What kind of boy you are looking for as your life partner?” With beautiful broad smile, she proclaimed: “Oh my God…that’s difficult question…” After few moments of thoughtful gaze into the blank, her first answer was: “One whose nature is good.” Then she had a list of the qualities that she was looking for. Surprisingly, “the look” was on lower level on her priorities. Then after, I have tried to find the answer from few more friends of mine and the answers were almost similar. Most of the girls were looking for a good nature life partner with equal level of appearance.
If we define “nature”, it can be good sides of a person’s character. In fact, “Good Nature” is a package of few of the good qualities of life. Whatever may be the reason, but now-a-days the girls started to understand that “the look” sometime can be deceptive and lead to no where. They are looking for the relationship which provides core values of life such as Love, Respect, Care and Honesty.
Let try to figure out how these qualities are important in life:
Honesty:
As it is said that honesty is the best policy. Honesty creates the trust, trust forms the bond, and this bond makes the relationship long lasting and happy.
Care:
Girls are looking for total attention. Care means to think about her goodness, her comfort, her well being, her ideology, her attitude. Care indicates to be dedicated to her all the time.
Love:
As we need food, water, and air to live, love is an added element to survive blissfully. They know very well that love is the only element that keeps life healthy, happy and worth living.
Respect:
Respect is sense of worth. Girls are looking for certain level of regards from their life partners. They want to make sure the importance of them in their lives. Girls are looking for the life partner who admire her ideology and go along with it.
Look:
Good look draws most of the girls, but it may not make them happy ultimately. The look can be the window to get into relationship, but look may not create long lasting relationship. Today, the girls are looking for happy relationship, which is based on good values of life.
And that’s the reason that Beautiful Girls Are Not Looking For Handsome Guys. Before being attracted, they would weigh you up as a complete package of good qualities; they will look for the core values of life in prospective life partner.
So if you have normal look with above qualities of life, you have a reason to celebrate because you’ve got the chance to become a darling of most beautiful woman on this earth.
Marriage Is Not End of Romance, Marriage Is Begining of Romance…
Gray hairs have been started to surface on his head. He might have tried but ream less glasses couldn’t hide the faint wrinkles around his eyes. Standing against the glass wall, sipping his early morning coffee, he was enjoying lightly falling snow outside. Wife, Jenny, in the kitchen, was busy with routine chores.
A tall and slender, teenage blonde girl – Angel - emerged from the room. Reaching behind him, enveloping her hands around his body, she whispered into his ears: “Happy Wedding Anniversary, Dad…”
For a moment, his face froze. It seemed that he was not able to respond his daughter. He again failed to remember his wedding anniversary. Couple of moment later, turning around with poignant smile on his face, he put his hand on her head and could whisper guiltily: “Thanks, hon.” She smiled and was en route to kitchen.
He turned and stared into blank as if he was recollecting his past.
He was the same person, who struggled for hours to find a fresh Red Rose for Jennifer - Waited for hours in the parking lot - Sent poetic SMSes every hour - Walking with her on the sprawling waves - Blue tooth into ears, talking all night long and having early morning break-fast at IHOP – Watching Ball Game with Beer and Pizza - Feeding chocolate covered strawberries to each other - He savored every moment with her.
They turned out more passionate after marriage. Morning started with making Irish Cream coffee for her and she made black coffee for him. He made her breakfast and she made his - Getting into shower together – Going to work and dropping her to her office. During work hours, their Blue Tooth always remained plugged into their ears. Picking her up from work and mostly going to Restaurant. At home, sitting in front of TV, talking more and watching less. Nights had always been intoxicating. Touching, caressing, kissing every pore of the body and wild sex remained at ultimate level. On a birthday or an anniversary, rose petals on the floor that leads her to Jacuzzi in a five star candle-lit hotel room.
He loved like a crazy and she blossomed like a flower. They didn’t know when her stomach was bulged amid giggling, laughing, loving, sharing the joy of being married. Once in a while, she started feeling little uneasy. Medical tests revealed that she is carrying.
The child to be born took the center stage of their life. He got more careful handling her. As much as possible he didn’t let her do any household chores. He was more watchful for her exercise and diet. He used to help her to prepare prescribed nutritious food for her. Every morning holding the tray of freshly cut fruits, he had to literally run around her to feed her, as she wasn’t a great fan of fruits. Sometimes she felt so overwhelmed that she thanked God for bestowing the moments she always dreamt of.
In a hospital, he witnessed the birth of an extremely beautiful baby girl, as decided, was named Angel. When he held her into his arms and touched her, awe-inspiring waves passed through his body. The feeling of a new life in his arms gave him a new life.
Now the focus shifted to baby. Baby was taking front row. Romance was on the back burner and nobody was looking at whether that burner was lit or not.
Marriage comes with responsibilities. Responsibilities made them forget who they were and who they are now. After a long day, they get to home, love baby and collapse into bed exhausted. No energy for romance and no time to sizzle themselves.
This is a common phase in a life of a couple whether they are married or not. However passionate they may have been in the first few years of the relationship, after a while the passion fizzles out and love-care-romance becomes history. It has been observed that Love and Romance before marriage is carefree, untroubled. He is he and she is she. They meet, romance, dream and enjoy and get back to their own home. There wasn’t any responsibility and no one to take care of. Both have to please each other, which is always exciting in love. Unfortunately, as the relationship continues and kids are born, we begin to focus more on our kids and home and less on our spouse. The relationship starts losing initial spark and we begin to feel a loss of love and romance. This doesn’t mean the basic element love has been evaporated or both are fed up with each other. It also doesn’t mean that the bond between two doesn’t exist. It simply means we’ve forgotten to keep the flame of our emotions burning.
Essentially, it is our tendency that we always run after the thing which is difficult to acquire. Once we acquire it, the significance of it always keeps decreasing. Monotony takes the place of excitement. When “Lover” becomes “spouse”, the “spouse” becomes “Ghar ki Murgi” (Home Made Chicken) and “Ghar Ki Murgi Is Daal Baraabar” (Home made chicken is as good as unsavory Pulse Soup). And this tendency of ours gives the birth to the crisis which sometimes becomes difficult to resolve.
But being happily married is not as subtle as you think. There are some precise steps you can take to spice up your relationship. Let try to figure out some seasonings, which makes relationship delicious and modify the method of cooking so that we can have delicious meal of the relationship.
No One Is As Good As Your Spouse:
These days, we, for a petty reason, fracture our relationship and attempt to find our desire elsewhere. But there is no guarantee that the “elsewhere” will be better and fulfill our expectations. No matter whatever the people - who have bitter experience - think, it is a fact that there is nobody as good as your spouse.
Develop Positive Attitude:
A Happy life starts with how you feel about yourself. If you have a positive outlook on life, then you are likely to share that happiness with others. Whenever any crisis arises, try to find out the solution patiently and get to the positive conclusion. If both of the partners try to think this then there won’t be any obstacle in relationship.
Communicate with each other:
Communication is the key for any relationship. If you don’t say what you think and how you feel on certain subject, how your partner will be able to know what you are looking for. It is also important to communicate honestly, listen patiently and say patiently. Blaming or accusing never resolves any problem. Each one needs to put oneself in another’s position and evaluate oneself appropriately.
Compromise – Sacrifice:
It is essential that the spouses are prepared to make sacrifices for each other. If one of the spouse is rather self centered and not willing to make sacrifices, the survival is likely difficult. It is not necessary that the sacrifice be a large one; as many a times small sacrifices that matter the most. If wife doesn’t like smoking, husband should quit and on the other hand if the smoking is occasional wife shouldn’t mind it either.
Be Romantic:
Romance doesn’t mean Sex. Sex is an integral part of Romance. Romance appeals to the five senses of human beings. Sight, Smell, Sound, Taste, and Touch. It’s the emotional, spiritual, and physical link between two hearts and two souls. Send romantic SMS to your spouse at regular interval. Say “I love you” even when not required. A sizzling kiss for no reason. Buy a copy of Kama Sutra and gift to your partner. Romance is a spice in the relationship and it makes the relationship delicious.
Respect and Praise:
You can do it by expressing small things. Giving compliments is a great way to let the other know that you care for your partner. “Looking sizzling today.” “I loved your thought.” “You look slim and fit.” Surprise gift of a single Red Rose may please your partner. It is not the flower; it’s feelings behind the flower that works. It shows how you care for her. Wife can do something husband loves most. So praise, respect and conquer the heart.
Spend Quality Time:
While dating, couples spend more time with each other, but later they get busier with other things in life and sometimes they don’t have time to pay attention to each other. Spending less time together can cause couples to drift away. Take a break - take a vacation together to crack the monotony. Spend at least 15 minutes a day together. Keep your cell phone off for a day. Go for a quiet evening once a week. Spend quality time with each other because this is the most treasured gift you can give to your sweet heart.
Say Sorry Whenever Required:
We are human and we make mistakes. When you realize that you have done something unpleasant, never hesitate to apologize. I know men generally don’t like to say sorry. Sorry is a magical word. It removes the doubts and clears misunderstandings. Make a habit of saying sorry whenever and wherever required.
Surprise With Affectionate Action:
Go beyond the expectation. Do something unexpected, which your partner never imagines. Plan an unimaginable romantic getaway. Reserve a Hotel Room and spread rose petals on the way that leads to candle lit Jacuzzi. Write a Love Letter addressing your wife and post it to your own address. Go for some sexual fantasies. Take salsa lessons, get tickets for a live concert and go for a date. Use your imagination and creativity to surprise your partner romantically.
Make Your Bedroom Romantic:
Bedroom is the most romantic place in the world. Color has a very strong and subtle effect on our senses. To create a romantic decor you should probably go for dimmer mood lighting. Bed is where mostly all actions take place. It has to be comfortable. Fabric should be luxurious and cozy. Try to find pieces of artifacts that evoke the intimacy. Scent is also a powerful stimulant. Finally, keep a copy of Kama-Sutra, an ancient guide to sensual pleasure.
Eat Delicious Food:
Food is the heart of life. Food keeps you alive. It is said that the best way to anybody’s heart is delicious food. And I am telling you, it is true. Sometimes nothing inspires more than a mouthwatering meal and sweet treats. Experiment with different types, different continents. And yes, never forget something sweet at the end.
Have Sex Regularly:
Sex is the ultimate joy of life. There is nothing more enjoyable than sex. Sex is the basic ingredient in unification of man and woman. Just like food, water and air, sex is a need of human being. Sex keeps you close and intimate. Even scientifically it has been proved that sex keeps us healthy. So to spice up your relationship and life, have sex regularly.
Conclusion:
We all are humans with different minds, different opinions, different philosophy and different approach towards life. When people with different kinds of minds get to gather at one place; conflicts are bound to take place. But any crisis in marriage can be resolved with love, respect, understanding, patience, trust and faith. We just have to keep in mind that Marriage Is Not an End of Romance; Marriage Is Beginning of Romance.
He, wiping the corner of his eyes, sighed. From the fifteenth floor, snow covered sprawling homes seemed as if sitting in the lap of his building. Snow had been slowed down, as if it was ending.
Angel – literally pulling - brought her mother Jennifer out of the Kitchen and made her stand in front of Daddy. Husband and wife gazed at each other strangely as if they are seeing after ages. Angel chirping, like a sparrow, said: “Happy Wedding Anniversary to both of you…”
Drops of tears swelled up in their eyes.
Angel further said resolutely: “Dad, Kiss Mama… and Mama you kiss Dad…”
They turned their gaze at Angel, who, unaware of detachment between Dad and mom, looked cheerful. They turned to each other and started sobbing as if they realized that they fail to appreciate each other and were regretful. Sobbing turned to weeping and he took hold of her into his arms. They let the grief get out through their eyes, then extended their hands at little Angel and she cheerfully encircled her hands around them.
Outside the wall glass, the falling snow was stopped. White thick gloomy clouds had been dispersed. Sky was clearer as if it was making a way for sun to come out. Faint golden rays from the horizon were filtering through the glass and illuminating the hall as well as the life.
Say It With Flowers…
Flower is a replica of heart, reflection of feelings, synonym of love, and darling of women.
They please the eye, gratify the heart, revitalize your senses and confer a feeling of happiness, peace and calmness.
Giving someone flowers is a symbol of both, honor and affection. We usually buy flowers in order to celebrate or to express our affection to our loved ones. If you are not able to express yourself, then convey your ideas and emotions through flowers. Flowers have helped many a relationship bloom through the ages.
Some of us may not know it, but the type of flowers that you give to your special someone has meanings. Choosing a flower based on its meaning and significance tells others how interested you are in their feelings.
Red Rose and Tulips signifies love. Dark Pink Rose shows thankfulness. Yellow Rose refers to friendship. Violet tells about faithfulness. Iris is for warmth or affections. Snowdrop means Hope. Lily reminds you of majesty. Daffodils give you regards. Veronica conveys fidelity.
So when you look for a bouquet, choose the flower that is right for the occasion and the one that accurately expresses your true feelings, be it an heartfelt apology, deep love or fiery passion, you should choose the flower that can express the message that you want to convey and if you have received the same, make sure that you know what they are saying.
Flowers can talk. Flowers can say what the lips cannot. Flowers can put smile on lips. Flowers can bring tears of happiness. Flowers can make you laugh. Flowers can get you love. Flower can mend the relationship. Flowers have helped many a relationship bloom through the ages.
When I think of flowers, I think of a smile on lips of a newborn.
What do you think?
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Finding a Right Life Partner, When Parents Are Arranging Your Marriage
In our Indian culture, it is the parent’s responsibility to search a match for their children at marriageable age, even though they are unaware of their children’s outlook. As always, they look for caste – religion, economic and social status, which is rational from their point of view.
Since last decade, in the course of globalization, today’s generation has become more educated, matured and is looking for emotional compatibility, goals in life, personal aspiration, likes and dislikes, which is practical from their point of view. And good thing is that the parents are beginning to understand and approve their choices.
With these two points of views, finding a compatible life-partner, when parents are arranging your marriage is a complex subject. Let’s try to figure out some elements, which can help you choose right one to be happy for the rest of your life.
Analyze yourself…
First of all, you have to figure out, what you are expecting from your partner. Make a list of your expectations and look for the individual who can fulfill your criteria. If you are looking for a partner who stays at home and takes care of you and children, then avoid choosing the person who has high professional qualification and interest in making a career and vice versa. Suppose you love sky diving and your spouse doesn’t but he/she is of adventurous nature, then you can teach and both can enjoy the activity. There are hundreds of permutations and combinations you have to consider. You just have to make sure that your expectations should not clash with your partner’s individuality.
Consider Family background…
First of all, in our culture, marriage is not only a knot between you and your partner; it is a union of two families. Secondly, your parents, who gave you birth, raised you, got you educated and your siblings with whom you have shared all bitter sweet moments of life up till now, have their own expectations out of this wedding and you simply can’t ignore them. Many a times we all have observed the conflict between husband, wife and in-laws have many times resulted in to a split. It happens due to a clash between expectations. To make a balance is a daunting task to accomplish. It requires high level of understanding. You have to consider your family; you have to compromise as much as possible, keeping yourself and your partner on a top priority. You just have to keep in mind the only bottom lines that you and you partner are going to live to gather for the rest of your life.
Astrology and Numerology…
Astrology and Numerology is an ancient science. Some believe and some don’t. We have observed that even after matching horoscope couples have been separated. The problem here is we hardly find the people who possess profound knowledge of astrology and numerology. If you find a genuine astrologer or an authentic numerologist, there is no harm in consulting them and look for a piece of advice. I would rather like you not to depend totally on this but treat this science as an additional help. You never know sometime it can tell you an untold story and help you when you are confused and unable to take a decision.
Meet over and again….
Then how can you select a life partner of your dream in a small meeting arrange by your parents? You will never. So you have to meet and talk with your prospective partner over and again. The most significant aspect that makes any marriage happy is the desire to give happiness to others without any expectation. You have to go different places, you have to talk a lot and get an idea how your prospective partner treat others; such as waiters, taxi drivers, bus boys. How he or she is behaving with his or her parents and siblings? So meet your prospective partner at different places over and again, talk to him or her, you will definitely get an idea of attitude, approach, communication and level of understanding. One thing you have to remember that someone who treats other poorly will someday treat you poorly as well.
Conclusion…
We need to accept the reality that two individuals are not born same; no marriage is or can be ideal. Marriage is bliss, which can become a misery too. Marriage is an understanding between two individuals, and unfortunately this understanding has never been defined. And that’s a huge challenge. You have to take on this challenge and succeed.
